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ON LOVE
~ By Thomas Kempis ~


Love is a mighty power,
a great and complete good.
Love alone lightens every burden, and makes rough places smooth.
It bears every hardship as though it were nothing, and renders
all bitterness sweet and acceptable.

Nothing is sweeter than love,
Nothing stronger,
Nothing higher,
Nothing wider,
Nothing more pleasant,
Nothing fuller or better in heaven or earth;

For love is born of God.

Love flies, runs and leaps for joy.
It is free and unrestrained.
Love knows no limits, but ardently transcends all bounds.
Love feels no burden, takes no account of toil
attempts things beyond its strength.

Love sees nothing as impossible,
for it feels able to achieve all things.
It is strange and effective,
while those who lack love faint and fail.

Love is not fickle and sentimental,
nor is it intent on vanities.
Like a living flame and a burning torch,
it surges upward and surely surmounts every obstacle.



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A Winnipeg street after two large snowstorms.

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A Past Yearly Trip West to Winnipeg

The trip was short but took forever.
The visit was fun but difficult.
I was busy, but really I did nothing.
Driving, visiting and drinking tea with everyone hardly counts.
I love my family but it’s not always easy.
One sibling was as excited to see me as I him.
Yet another squeezed me in like an appointment with an annoying customer.
One year since my last visit, 2 since there was time for me.
My mom as always needed more than I ever have to give.
Unfortunate as she is close to no-one.
Her paranoia makes her miserable and depressed.
Friends are my shelter and my grounding.
Without them it would be impossible.
AH, but my youngest son.
The one I truly went to see.
It had been one year since he moved and I saw him last.
I needed to see/feel/know- he was doing as well as he said.
I saw him daily, and he was.
He was peaceful, not pacing.
He was calm, not shaking.
He was chatty and opinionated, not quiet and invisible.
His smiles were easy, his glasses were dirty.
He enjoys his work even though it’s the middle of the night.
He was delightful to see and touch.
It was fun and effortless to be around him.
I was sad to leave him behind but he belongs there.
I hugged him tight and told him what I saw.
He was okay – more than okay.
He was home – it’s not mine anymore, though.
I love him enough to give him wholly to himself and the world.
He may have difficult times ahead of him still,
But today I know that he will be okay.
I don’t feel the same about my mom;
I don’t know that she will be okay.
I do know there is nothing I can really do about it.
I left with the mixed feelings of joy, sadness, laughter and tears.
They remind me that I am alive and living ‘my’ life.
My emotions help me deal with every aspect of my life –
the good and the difficult.
They all teach me something.
I surround myself with wonderful people.
They help me through the difficult times,
And celebrate the happy ones.
I am grateful to be able to feel them all.
This wasn’t always so.

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]Happy New Year!
What do you want to do with 2011?
Have you made room in it for some positive change – a gift to yourself?
Invest some time to discover your passion with the thought-provoking questions below.
Feel free to share them with your friends and family as I have.

Your friendship and support has meant a great deal to me this year and for that I thank you from the bottom of a very grateful heart.

May 2011 be full of Peace, Love and more Joy than you could possibly keep to yourself.

What was the smartest decision you made in 2010?

What is the biggest piece of unfinished business still left from 2010?

What choices did you make in 2010 that you do not want to repeat?

Who made an important impact on you in 2010?

Who do you want to thank or express gratitude/appreciation to? How?

What relationship needs more attention in 2011?

What aspects of your health, appearance and habits need more attention in 2011?

What word would best describe your finances in 2010?
Where did you waste money in 2010?

What area of your finances do you want most to clear up in 2011?

What one thing do you need to do or say that would have made 2010 feel complete?

What did you learn about yourself in 2010 that will help guide you in the New Year?

What value/passion did you live this year?

For what problems must you ask for solutions?

In what areas would you benefit with more education?

Did you feel like you had enough support in 2010?
If not, where could you have used more support?

Are you willing to ask for that support and how will you do so?

Did you have fun in 2010? How can you bring more fun into your life?

What was your biggest high in 2010? What was your low for 2010?

Did you have a theme for the year?

If so how did it guide you? Moving on to 2011… My theme for 2011 is…

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Tents for homeless people on the Canal Saint-M...

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]Ah yes, the New Year is upon us and what do we want for the New Year?

I think peace on earth would be a great place to start, don’t you?

Healthcare for the world over.

Enough funds for food and a roof over each living soul.

Enough joy to balance out the sorrows in life for all.

To allow all to live how they choose without judgement.

To give value to each other while maintaining a sense of personal value.

That’s all! Well there is really much more, but this is a good place to start.

I guess the question maybe…

What am I willing to do towards this?

Be of service wherever possible.

Give financially where able…not just willing.

Share a smile with a stranger…how about a homeless person?

You could even do more if you want to really make a difference in the world.

What are you “choosing” to do today and in the New Year?

May Peace, Health, Prosperity and Happiness be within you to share this coming year and always.

Love Tam

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Amy Gross wrote about the 10-Minute Mind Spa and I thought you might enjoy taking a few moments to try it. It is terrific to the people who have either not tried meditating or have had difficulty. You cannot do it wrong, but it does take time to melt into it. Even a few short moments may be the diffierence of connecting versus not trying at all. Give it a shot, I know you want to!
 
You say you can’t meditate because you “can’t stop thinking.” But, really, not thinking is not what it’s about. The point of meditation is to bring you to clarity so you know you are in fact thinking, or planning, or being depressed or hungry or angry or (it could happen) happy. The point is to become mindful—not mindless.

Most mental activity, you’ll see, distracts you from knowing what’s actually going on in and around you. We’re often lost in thought or worry, absorbed in the past or future. Meditation slices through the fog and brings you right back home, to where you actually are. It’s not woo-woo, it’s not esoteric or exotic. It’s brain training. Try this to get the flavor (you’ll probably want to close your eyes after reading the instructions to reduce visual input)

  • Sit in an upright but comfortable way. Scan your body to check that you’re relaxed—your eyes, jaw, shoulders, belly, hands, and legs. Sit and know that you are sitting. Become aware of your breath moving in and out. Think “out” when you feel the fall of the exhalation, “in” when you feel the rise or pressure or stretching or tingling of the inhalation (what are the sensations?). When your mind wanders—there’s no question it will—acknowledge that you’ve lost contact with your breath, and watch the next inhalation roll in.
  • The most important thing to realize is that every moment you notice you’ve wandered off is a moment of being aware, of clarity. That’s what you’re going for. What does it feel like? Within nanoseconds, you’ll be thinking again, and becoming aware that you’re thinking, and starting again. The more you do it, the more you’ll have the experience of that pause when the mind is actually clear and present—that taste of freshness.
  • You can do this anytime, for any amount of time. Try it for a minute, try it for 10. Pay close attention to a single in-breath, a single out-breath. Every experience of awareness makes the next more likely. The enrichment to your life has to be experienced to be believed.
  • Personally, I have an amazing ability to zone out looking out my kitchen window. There are trees and bushes and squirrels busily hiding their nuts for the winter to look at and then suddenly I am just there. Completely there. When my mind wanders off I note where it has taken me and I am grateful for the clarity that the moment of truly being has allowed. It’s worth 10 minutes to try out the “Mind Spa”. You will be delighted by how refreshed and clear headed you may feel afterwords. If a dog can live in the moment, I am sure we can too! Have an incredible weekend, friends!

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    kiss inc.

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  • Acceptance is the key to harmony. Let it go …you really can’t control your beloved, only your own behaviours. Not to be confused with giving up or giving in. Let go, and let love be the answer.
  • Trust your beloved – they are in this relationship, too. We all get up wanting to do our best, sometimes we just miss our own mark and end up…just doing our best.
  • Talk ‘with’ not ‘at’ your beloved –let yourself be vulnerable. Get to really know each other. We falsely believe we know our partners well only to find out something new we didn’t know by talking and being open ourselves.
  • Know that you’re in it together, not islands but not actually attached either. It is easier, believe me to do something together, because two heads are better than one. Would you have loved them the same if they were EXACTTLY like you? This does not mean that you need finish each other’s sentences either…I personally would like to finish my own. Also, have something in your life that is not connected to your beloved. You tend to appreciate each other more and it gives you something more to bring to the relationship.
  • Know that neither of you are perfect – REALLY! This is self-explanatory, isn’t it.
  • Laugh often -even at your imperfections – together preferably. Look, it can be great fun to laugh at others (providing they don’t get hurt) but to notice ones faults and still be able to laugh at yourself and not get miffed when your beloved joins in, that’s togetherness.
  • Know that you have not always been perfect to each other…read the above for more info – if necessary.
  • Apologize easily whenever you are wrong, and probably often. But remember, continually apologizing for the same mistake gets tiresome for both parties. Isn’t it better to actually deal with the issue?
  • Work on your relationships daily.  The relationship is a gift that can keep on giving, if you keep on giving to it.
  • Show and tell each other daily that you love each other. Tell them you love them and why. Do something special for the heck of it. Do something nice without pointing it out to get credit for it. This can be a toughie.
  • Pray to have lots of days, months and years together like this one. Time is a gift as well. We need to treat today like it may be our last with our beloved and pray that they can be around longer than you.
  • Get up again tomorrow and do it all again, lovingly. Look, nobody is perfect, but as long as we can get up again, there is hope.  Start the day anew. You have it in you to forgive all past sins, if you really want to and start fresh.  Besides, don’t you want all YOUR past sins forgiven? The answer to every question is love.
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    Human being asking Universe...

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    I accept myself completely.

    I accept my strengths and my weaknesses,
    my gifts and my shortcomings,
    my good points and my faults.

    I accept myself completely as a human being.

    I accept that I am here to learn and grow, and
    I accept that I am learning and growing.

    I accept the personality I’ve developed, and
    I accept my power to heal and change.

    I accept myself without condition or reservation.

    I accept that the core of my being is goodness and
    that my essence is love, and
    I accept that I sometimes forget that.

    I accept myself completely, and in this acceptance
    I find an ever-deepening inner strength.

    From this place of strength, I accept my life fully and
    I open to the lessons it offers me today.

    I accept that within my mind are both fear and love, and
    I accept my power to choose which
    I will experience as real
    I recognize that I experience only the results
    of my own choices.

    I accept the times that I choose fear
    as part of my learning and healing process, and
    I accept that I have the potential and power
    in any moment to choose love instead.

    I accept mistakes as a part of growth,
    so I am always willing to forgive myself and
    give myself another chance.

    I accept that my life is the expression of my thought, and
    I commit myself to aligning my thoughts
    more and more each day with the Thought of Love.

    I accept that I am an expression of this Love
    Love’s hands and voice and heart on earth.

    I accept my own life as a blessing and a gift.

    My heart is open to receive, and I am deeply grateful.

    May I always share the gifts that I receive
    fully, freely, and with joy.

    (I wish I had said that!) Author Unknown

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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false] I remember when I turned 40 some years ago, I felt I had arrived. Not perfectly with failing eyesight, a couple of important health issues and a few extra pounds, but arrived well enough, none the less. A sort of coming of age feeling or sense of having deserved the number from how much living and effort went into it. There were tears and laughter to mark the more memorable moments. I am grateful for a memory that forgets or only remembers the generalities of past hurt and resentment but keeps the details of poignant and delicious moments.

    There are those moments of clarity, life is changing moments. Moments that great emotion was part of.  The purely joyful moment as both of my sons were born. The incredible sadness in the moment I loaded up my kids, with as many of our belongings that would fit in two cars as I left my sons dad. The moment I said “I do”, when I married my current beloved and meant forever, and still do. The moment of pure silliness, when my girlfriend and I dragged a railway tie up the road for my garden or we painted the long willowy twigs we found and put twinkle lights on for my front step at Christmas. It seemed like a good idea at the time, as they all did.

    I have had many memorable and life changing moments in my life, and hope to have many more. Life will continue to challenge me and give me many things to be grateful for. Today I choose to remember the important things and ditch the rest. It is good to take a moment and remember some of the good moments and be grateful for having them and being able to remember how they felt. Have a meaningful Saturday!

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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]  I didn’t know what peace really meant. When I was young it meant a very small portion of something as there were eight of us to share and as kids our piece was always small. I figured out the difference as I grew up. As a teen it came in the saying “Peace, man”. There was “give peace a chance” that John Lennon said in the 60’s, from a bed holed up in the Queen Elizabeth Hotel with Yoko Ono in Montreal, Quebec.

    I remember visions of the symbols worn by everyone around their neck on a thin strip of leather with the 3 lines connecting in the middle like a “y” within a circle. There was also the two finger expression held up to look like a bunny in a shadow but had nothing to do with furry little creatures. I knew this was about the war in Vietnam and why I had seen Americans holding placards in sit-ins on the news when I was young. They spoke of some who ran away to Canada so they would not be forced to fight against their will. These were principled people but some just called them cowards and traitors. I get that this world is still not a peaceful place, we can all work on that.

    Today I am thinking about the peace one feels with not a worry in the world. I didn’t know this calm existed until I was in my forties. My mind was always so full and busy. Busy with worry, fear, plans, and the over-responsibility of my life from my home of origin. There were also the things to do as well as the things I had not done or done badly. Some of these were – poor choices, judgment, anger, resentment, bitterness, confusion and sadness. Even at times there were joy, fun and love however fleeting. I spent much of my time believing I was helping or fixing other peoples problems, instead of focusing on my own. I was only filling my mind with busy work and they generally never took my advice anyway. They may not have even asked, actually.

    It took me years to recognize that the quiet in my mind is true peace. I was told that was what “peace of mind” was. When it first occurred in brief moments, it was a strange feeling. I am not all that sure that I liked it and it certainly made me feel extremely uncomfortable. Countless times over the years I tried to achieve this foreign state through meditation, to no avail. There was never room for the stillness peace needed. I had to give up a lot to get there.

    Mostly I had to give up control. There was the control of the past, present and future as well as the control of other people, places and things. Past resentments and unhappiness needed to leave as well. This was not an easy feat, but well worth the effort. I had some help from others along the way to clear the wreckage of that past.

    I had so much more room for me. This was a very scary thought and undertaking. Who was I? What did I want? How did I feel? There was room for new questions and the expanding space for the answers. With this came acceptance, of my past and present. The acceptance of other people and situations came easier. Acceptance of all of my choices, not judging them as good or bad, as I was where I needed to be at the time I made them. Most of the time I leave others to themselves unless asked, and they are all the better for it. Mind my own business, I say.

    Serenity came when I no longer looked for it. Today I notice when I have lost it for brief moments in time, then crave to put things to rest quickly to be settled back into the peace of peace.

    Today I live in peace more than not and don’t want for much else. Yes, a roof over my head and food in my belly, of course. Clothes on my back and shoes on my feet are necessary in the climate Canada gives freely. But without the peace I feel in my mind I would hardly notice the gifts in my life let alone appreciate and be grateful for all that I have. Peace of mind has given me an extra large piece of life to cherish, which has become a large part of who I am. I couldn’t be more grateful for peace than I am today.

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