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yellow brick road

Is this your yellow brick road?

Are the goals you are working on yours?

Does it feel like the road is paved in gold and it seems all you have to do is dream it and it becomes your reality or is it like slogging around the base of a mountain but not quite getting your footing to climb it or you can’t find the path?

One reason may be that someone else set the goal for you. Not consciously but maybe they want something for you more than you want it.

Even without knowing it you may have set a goal you felt you “should” set based on someone else’s beliefs or desires for you. It either overwhelms you or even under-whelms you. Hard to put your heart into something like that isn’t it?

Does your goal feel somewhat pressured, not in a good way.   Do you feel pushed towards it, vs. drawn towards it? Like you cannot imagine not getting to the end result!

You may even want the goal but there may not have been enough thought or planning around it. Reality may or may not have an impact on your goal but put those glasses on to check it out if necessary. This is not to burst your balloon, but looking at all your options is still valuable.

Anything can be done if there is enough desire and energy to move you forward. If you have been less that “there” lately, then start with a smaller yet S-M-A-R-T goal.  One you know you CAN achieve with a small stretch then make each next goal bigger so that as you take those achievable steps, you are creating an environment of energy that will make even the seemingly impossible, POSSIBLE!

I too have had a past full of goal setting where I did well, then not so well. In hindsight I realize that my aversion to goal-setting was absolutely from getting to a place of setting goals that felt I “should” do, it would look good, I would feel better about myself, etc, etc,etc.

What I know today is that a goal has to be driven by your Vision. The one YOU want for yourself. The goals are the stepping stones towards it. You will feel drawn towards your goals and Vision in a way that feels like that path of gold off to OZ. All you need do is dream it, then be S-M-A-R-T about it!

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Ingredients

Hmmm…Whats Missing?

Setting goals gives us a feeling of starting anew.

But if our goals aren’t created properly, we are setting ourselves up for failure right from the start. So next time you create your goals, add this additional element to ensure your success.

Not only do you want to write them down, look at them daily, and take deliberate action toward achieving them, but you also want to visualize them as if they have already happened.

So… Want to lose 20 pounds? Visualize yourself 20 pounds lighter.

Want to make $100K this year? Visualize yourself putting $10K cheques in the bank each and every month.

Want to pay off all your debt? Visualize your balance sheet saying $0 due.

Visualizing your goals is the missing ingredient to achieving what yo want to accomplish.

Enjoy the experience, and enjoy your vision coming to be!

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Les Rivaux de Painful Gulch

A Little Motivation

Pain doesn’t tell you when you ought to stop. Pain is the little voice in your head that tries to hold you back because it knows if you continue you will change.

Don’t let it stop you from being who you can be. Exhaustion tells you when you ought to stop. You only reach your limit when you can go no further.

– Unknown

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Feet On the Map

Action is fascinating because action is habitual.

You can be the habit of action or the habit of inaction – both having dramatically different results.

The more you create the habit of action, the more action you take.

And the more you create the habit of inaction, the harder it is to get started.

Which habit are you in? What holds you back? All it takes it the first step. Then another step. No one ever said it has to be the right step because you can adjust along the way. It just has to be a step, and all the rest will work itself out.

What is the moral of the story? Don’t wait until your perfect plans are made and your fears are gone. The perfect time is now. Take the first step, then make the other steps a habit.

 

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Goal setting: creates a future

Goal setting: creates a future (Photo credit: lululemon athletica)

We all hear about the importance of setting goals but do you do it? 

Why or why not?

Is it the lack of discipline?

Is it that it is not that important to you?

Or is it that you may not reach your goals anyway, so why even bother?

If you set goals that are tangible and attainable and not a pie-in-the-sky wish, then you do have the ability to reach them, create a track record of success, and develop your goal setting muscle.

Our olympians were not born with the ability to be the best at their chosen sport. They had to start with small goals first. As they achieved smaller goals they stretched to slightly bigger then bigger until world records were made then broke.

If you don’t have the disciple or the habit of setting goals, is it worth the reward to develop the discipline? I say it is. I have seen it time and time again.

Answer these questions:

How is it serving you to not set goals?

How would your life be changed if you did?

Assignment:

Try setting daily goals that you know you can accomplish. Make them simple, attainable, and most importantly, make a commitment to achieve your goal for that day. This will build your confidence, create a habit, and build your goal setting muscle.

You could be the next Olympian in what you do!

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what-if

what-if (Photo credit: cambiodefractal)

Great leaders that have gone before us have told us that one of the secrets to their success is to start acting like you are a success before you are one.

Picture yourself, carry yourself, and talk to yourself as f you have already achieved the level of success you desire.

Think about how you would act, what your lifestyle would be like, what you would do with your time, the clothes that you would wear, and the car you would drive.

Think about these things often. Taste them, feel them, smell them and hear them. Experience them with your whole BEing again and again.

You become what you think about. AND you become what you move toward. Start moving in the direction of who you want to BE by acting as if you are already there.

Post who you are BEcoming for the collective energy to surround you and make the BEcoming even more amazing!

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“I’ve changed my mind.” is a full sentence. Just like “No.” we need not say more.

Do we “need” an explanation from others when they say this to us? Why?

Does a decision really need to be explained or defended? Is it really our business?

Could it be about respecting others and the decisions they make for themselves?

Is it just a bad habit that can be amended by no longer asking for an explanation?

Just wondering what you think…

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It is important to remember that we are energy. Einstein told us that. And energy cannot be created or destroyed, it just changes form. Rhonda Byrne

What does your energy feel like today? Does it feel warm and fuzzy or overwhelmed and difficult, electric and vibrating, exhausted and dragging or calm and relaxed? Let me know how you feel.

How does your energy look? Black and cold, red and raging or brown and boring…white and illuminating or maybe yellow and cozy, how about bright and light you tell me…

Do you depend on a hit of energy from a power drink, coffee, chocolate or some outside source instead of from within?

You have a choice and if you want support on where to go from here or how to focus that energy in the way you want, well I have a tele-forum for you!

Check it out on the events page or just click here!

https://tammyrowlandcoaching.wordpress.com/upcomingevents/

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]Happy New Year!
What do you want to do with 2011?
Have you made room in it for some positive change – a gift to yourself?
Invest some time to discover your passion with the thought-provoking questions below.
Feel free to share them with your friends and family as I have.

Your friendship and support has meant a great deal to me this year and for that I thank you from the bottom of a very grateful heart.

May 2011 be full of Peace, Love and more Joy than you could possibly keep to yourself.

What was the smartest decision you made in 2010?

What is the biggest piece of unfinished business still left from 2010?

What choices did you make in 2010 that you do not want to repeat?

Who made an important impact on you in 2010?

Who do you want to thank or express gratitude/appreciation to? How?

What relationship needs more attention in 2011?

What aspects of your health, appearance and habits need more attention in 2011?

What word would best describe your finances in 2010?
Where did you waste money in 2010?

What area of your finances do you want most to clear up in 2011?

What one thing do you need to do or say that would have made 2010 feel complete?

What did you learn about yourself in 2010 that will help guide you in the New Year?

What value/passion did you live this year?

For what problems must you ask for solutions?

In what areas would you benefit with more education?

Did you feel like you had enough support in 2010?
If not, where could you have used more support?

Are you willing to ask for that support and how will you do so?

Did you have fun in 2010? How can you bring more fun into your life?

What was your biggest high in 2010? What was your low for 2010?

Did you have a theme for the year?

If so how did it guide you? Moving on to 2011… My theme for 2011 is…

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]After being honest with me last week about her REAL “closet eating” issues, today we find out how she worked through her week with food.

The first thing Eve told me was that she wrote down everything, not leaving one morsel out! As she has been weighing is at a weight loss clinic for several months, she went in with all of it in hand. Eve had a day where she needed a fix and ate a box of chocolates and wrote it down as well.  The woman on the other side of the counter was quite critical about what her week. Eve went on to describe the woman as not so perfect herself and somewhat pushy, cocky and arrogant.

I asked if the woman may have been reacting to her defensiveness about what she had done. Quite possibly she said, as they had always been kind in the past. It had been uncomfortable to show her actions on paper to someone else which made her feel like she had to defend herself. Calming down she was able to mention her commitment to herself and felt more power and on another occasion had only a sliver of pie with no desire to sneak more. The sign on her fridge door was a constant reminder that it was “Just for Today” she needed to stay focused on with food.

Had she any new thoughts this week as she moved along her path to being honest with herself? Eve mentioned that she had been a pleaser all her life and worked very hard to make others happy. Now she realized that she is a good person, and needs to make her priority her own happiness. The sign that she was “good enough” last week was a great reminder as well. Eve says she walks a little prouder and everything she does is important, not menial. Everyone’s job is equally important.

Life is “ever interesting” with her spouse and the job decisions up in the air right now. Eve is now realizing that this time in her life is serving a purpose for her. When her spouse has made good decisions in the past, she usually says “I hate it when you’re right!” A great phrase to practice instead of saying you are wrong (as he never believes that he is and she is right sometime too) could be “You may be right.” There is no defensiveness or criticism in this statement. Eve loved this and could hardly wait to use it.

How has being honest with yourself this week changed how you feel about yourself?

“More relaxed and definitely more empowered! It is surprisingly less work than hiding things. I feel more in control and definitely prouder of myself even when I am not perfect.”

 How is not being perfect changing your life?

“It seems less important that it used to be. It was always the barometer of where I needed to be.”

What will you do this week to commit to this honest path of yours?

“To continue to be honest with myself and write down what I am eating no matter what it is.”

 Come back next week to see Eve honestly on her way to the bottom of it all!

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