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I fell off my bicycle 2 weeks ago. Not to worry, I am okay with mostly bumps and bruises. I sat in the street in agony laughing my head off. The two retired women who came to my rescue couldn’t help but laugh as they scraped me off the asphalt and dragged my bike the 3 houses I got. It was my beloved’s old bike actually and I was just giving it an around the block test-drive to decide if I would actually ride it or sell it. The ride lasted 30 seconds but I am still paying for it, but healing.

I have been building my strength and energy for the past year or so. The idea that I may actually be interested in riding the bike was not mine.  Although I am always looking for things to do with my beloved, I truly did not think that I would be into the bicycling thing, but I did not think I would fall or plan for it. So why did I get on the bike?

Well, I figured that I owed it to him to try. I didn’t get on the bike for me as for us really. I love spending time with my beloved so if only for me, there would have been no test-drive. I do no seem to have great natural balance so have fallen of roller blades and bikes and things with wheels and blades – heck even a toboggan! I have always been just more safe when I stay on my feet, planted firmly on the ground.

This is not to say I will try other things. I have considered zip lining between trees with a friend of mine. This will have to wait until my shoulder heals, though. Even para-sailing off a dock over the water, but to land in the water is not my bag either! Even the idea of jumping off a cliff tandem with someone who has a glider strapped to their back has some appeal. I think its that feeling of flying through the air that I want to try!

I am not writing this to discourage you to try stuff out, frankly quite the opposite. If you want to be sure that something is not for you then give it a shot. If you want to jump out of a perfectly good airplane with a parachute strapped firmly to your back, JUMP! Why not? I am continuing to heal and build strength and energy at the gym on a bicycle that is nailed down and only one wheel as I see it. This is giving me energy while doing cardio and adding circulation to  heal my leg.

What will you try out just to see if it’s your thing? Be sure to wear a helmet and elbow pads!

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  1. Let it go …you really can’t control your beloved, only your own behaviours. Not to be confused with giving up or giving in. Acceptance is the key to harmony. Let go, and love.
  2. Trust your beloved – they are in this relationship, too. We all get up wanting to do our best, sometimes we just miss our own mark and end up…just doing our best.
  3. Really talk ‘with’ not ‘at’ your beloved –let yourself be vulnerable. Get to really know each other. We falsely believe we know our partners well only to find out something new we didn’t know by talking and being open ourselves.
  4. Know and act like you’re in it together, not islands but not actually attached either. It is easier; believe me to do something together, because two heads are better than one. Would you have loved them the same if they were EXACTLY like you? This does not mean that you need finish each others sentences either…I personally like to finish my own. Also, have something in your life that is not connected to your beloved. You tend to appreciate each other more and it gives you something interesting to bring to the relationship.
  5. Neither of you are perfect – REALLY! This is self-explanatory, isn’t it? Yes we are ALL wrong sometimes!
  6. Laugh at your imperfections – together preferably. Look, it can be great fun to laugh at the world occasionally (providing they don’t know or get hurt by it) but to notice ones faults and still be able to laugh at yourself and not get miffed when your beloved joins in, that’s togetherness.
  7. Know that you have not always been perfect to each other… read the above for more info – if necessary.
  8. Apologize easily whenever you are wrong, and probably often. Refer to #5 if needed. But remember, continually apologizing for the same mistake gets tiresome for both parties. Isn’t it better to actually deal with the issue? It will not magically vanish into thin air without some effort.
  9. Work on your relationships daily.  The relationship is a gift that can keep on giving, if you keep on giving to it.
  10. Show and tell your beloved daily that you love them. Tell them you love them and why. Do something special for the heck of it. When was the last time you did something your partner hates just because it would remove it from their to-do list? How about flowers or dinner and a movie? If you are not the verbal kind of guy, how about a love note? It doesn’t have to be poetry, just from your heart. Do something nice without pointing it out to get credit for it. This can be a toughie for some. Don’t wait until you FEEL like it, do it NOW!
  11. Pray to have lots of days, months and years together. Even the bad moments remind us of how good the great moments are. Time is a gift. We need to treat today like it may be our last with our beloved and pray that they will be around longer than you.
  12. Get up tomorrow and do it all again, lovingly. Nobody is perfect, but as long as we can get up again, there is hope.  Start the day anew. You have it in you to forgive all past sins if you really want to live without resentments.  Besides, don’t you want all YOUR past sins forgiven?        The answer to every question is LOVE!

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7 THINGS TO GIVE YOUR BELOVED

1-      LOVE ~ Love him/her from where you are today. Not where you wish you were or were yesterday. This way you can enjoy the moment for what it is not expecting it to be different. Yesterday I was annoyed so that would be a lousy place to love him from. I may already be projecting a difficult situation I have to deal with tomorrow and be overwhelmed by it while my beloved has no clue how I feel.

2-      ACCEPTANCE ~ All my beloved wants is for me to take him as he is…not TRY to change him. This took some time to get to, but what a gift it is to spend time with someone with no agendas on either part. Controlling comes in many forms…just ask me!

3-      UNDERSTANDING ~ When they need to talk- they only want you to listen, unless they ask for an opinion- DON”T OFFER ONE! When they want your opinion, DON”T TRY TO FIX IT! When they need your expertise, unless they ask you to do it for them- DON”T TAKE OVER!

4-      LAUGHTER ~ Lighten up! Watch funny stuff like comedies, kid’s movies and cartoons together that will make you laugh. Laugh at your beloved’s jokes no matter how often you have heard them. There aren’t enough reasons to laugh, so make some up as you go along. Nobody gets me like my beloved and vice-versa, so we have tons of private jokes. Call during the day just to share in intimate chuckle, it will make your day. Life is way too short to spend it seriously.

5-      SPACE ~ This can mean both physical and mental space. I need to do things by myself – for myself and so does my beloved. We check with each other to be sure it does not inflict badly on each other, but we take time for ourselves. The mental space took me forever to sort out. It’s the space you need to think and come to your own thoughts and decisions about a thing. That means I don’t try to control the direction of my beloved’s thoughts or hurry the process along to an answer, just give the space needed for it to arise. It surprisingly doesn’t take that much time. REALLY!

6-      TIME ~ Don’t be so caught up in your own space and time that you neglect the relationship. It needs to be nurtured by both parties. You can only affect your part so step up. Start out small so as not to smother or become controlling about it. If come to gently, your beloved will come along willingly. Find a few things that you can do together where you may interact and create more opportunities to laugh and grow your intimacy. Cartoons are one thing but a walk in the park holding hands has a completely different feel about it.

7-      PUPPIES ~ This seems like a funny thing but it kind of goes along with the space thingy. My beloved always wanted a puppy. I said no after having kids, dogs (both from a previous marriage-only the kids came as a package into this one) and cats up to that point, I knew how much work was in it for me (who is in the home WAY more then my beloved). Finally after about 17 years together, kids grown and flown the coop, I surrendered to this cute puppy (from hell, actually), he was thrilled. It brought out the playful child in him. He (we) gets more exercise and spends time  in nature and outdoors playing and walking the dog. Who knew the affect an animal could have. We always had cats but a dog is truly a different relationship. Do what you will but if he REALLY wants a puppy, and you have some time on your hands, like 2 years for training, GO FOR IT! You (eventually) won’t be sorry.

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After my New Year’s blog on change, I am following up by launching a NEW Group Coaching event here in Montreal starting February 21, 2011. I am only offering this to 8 women as it is such an intimate yet powerful group. You will not want to miss this opportunity so register quickly!

Please go to  Upcoming Events to see all the information as well as testimonials from a few attendees from a previous group. Consistently they mentioned words like safe and fun to describe the environment felt in the group sessions. Self-awareness and growth are personal goals gained from each of my clients as they moved forward along their personal path.

Women have come together for generations doing such things as knitting circles or quilting bees, pot-luck meals or movie nights. The largest benefit has always been that feeling of connection and togetherness that holds us together in difficult times. In today’s world where the pace of society and technology has kept us more isolated than ever, this is a REAL chance to reconnect! Bring a friend; share this with someone you know who could really benefit from so “me time”. Someone who may be on “PAUSE” “STUCK” or just “BORED”.

Mid-life can be that moment of transition that allows for something different. It doesn’t mean down-hill or over the hill for that matter. It can truly be an exciting time for you!  Maybe the first half of your life was all about your spouse, parents or family. I am sure you are happy you did but NOW it’s YOUR time! Time to uncover something to be passionate about! Maybe you stuck your dreams on hold for your family and now they have flown the coop so you can finally pursue your dreams!

A renewed energy that can be spent in any direction YOU choose! A new business, political pursuits, social injustice, or something that makes you FEEL alive! Maybe you have a known or unknown talent that has been waiting for you to develop it now that you have the time! The group creates a space to find out “what” or sort out the “how”.

I enjoy being part of the group experience and share in each persons joy from the “AHA moments” that come about, knowing that they will respond differently in their lives  from that moment on. It is truly an opportunity for anyone who is interested in change with support of others in a similar place in their lives. Now is the time for you, and you deserve to take it! I look forward to hearing from you and supporting your forward motion.

For more information on group or one-on-one coaching, don’t hesitate to contact me through the email on the contact page.

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]The time is NOW for a NEW YOU!

 

Is it time for a change?

Are you stuck?

Do you know which way to go next?

Are you at a crossroads in your life as a woman of a certain age?

I am launching a NEW Group Coaching Event open to the first 8 women ready for a change.

Starting February 21, 2011!

I am sure some of you are asking what Coaching is.

The short answer of what it is and is not…

Coaching is a supported self-guided path to change.

Whatever change you are ready for I will meet you there and co-create a plan for moving forward.

Coaches are in the asking business and that is what I am here to do!

Therapy can deal with past pain, whereas mentoring and consulting shows you how by an expert.

I will not give medical advice.

 

Why would you participate, you ask?

Participants from the last session will share with you some of their reasons.

“I have been able to clarify what is important to me and make decisions more consciously…I have a better & more clear idea of what makes me “tick”. I have also increased my self-acceptance. Impact: A safe enough environment to help me have the courage to tell the truth about myself to myself. Anne B.

“The group provided me with the opportunity to meet fabulous women on a similar journey & our get-togethers inevitably led to a heightened level of personal understanding. It was a blast!” Helene S. 

“It helped me set priorities and motivate me towards working on my goals. I am more assertive in communicating my needs. I thought it was a great workshop! Tammy is a great facilitator!” Veronica P.

“These women created a bond with each other and felt safe to share their inner-most feelings. Women supporting women has worked throughout the generations. Today’s need is no less valuable. Bring a friend to share this special time with knowing you will be the better for it.”
Tammy Rowland

Things we will discuss:

Self-Discovery ~Relationships~ Intuition; following your gut instinct ~Empowerment ~ Joy~Feeling Balanced~
Get clarity around your Needs and Values ~ Strategies for what’s next ~
How to transform your life to have more of what you want

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Starting: Monday’s February 21st, 2011 to March 28th, 2011
We meet for 6 weeks from 7:00 pm–9:00 pm – Location TBA
Register: Call Tammy Rowland @ 514-918-5476
Cost after February 14th – $250.00
Interac Money Transfer & Cheques accepted payable to:
9044-9646 Quebec Inc.

**There is a $50 discount upon registering before February 14th so call now!

Payment must be cleared to hold your spot as it is first come first registered.
One on One Coaching sessions also available

Contact Tammy Rowland (514)918-5476 tammyrowland@bell.net
Certified Life Coach ~ CoachU Graduate ~ International Coach Federation Member

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[tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]Ah yes, the New Year is upon us and what do we want for the New Year?

I think peace on earth would be a great place to start, don’t you?

Healthcare for the world over.

Enough funds for food and a roof over each living soul.

Enough joy to balance out the sorrows in life for all.

To allow all to live how they choose without judgement.

To give value to each other while maintaining a sense of personal value.

That’s all! Well there is really much more, but this is a good place to start.

I guess the question maybe…

What am I willing to do towards this?

Be of service wherever possible.

Give financially where able…not just willing.

Share a smile with a stranger…how about a homeless person?

You could even do more if you want to really make a difference in the world.

What are you “choosing” to do today and in the New Year?

May Peace, Health, Prosperity and Happiness be within you to share this coming year and always.

Love Tam

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  • Acceptance is the key to harmony. Let it go …you really can’t control your beloved, only your own behaviours. Not to be confused with giving up or giving in. Let go, and let love be the answer.
  • Trust your beloved – they are in this relationship, too. We all get up wanting to do our best, sometimes we just miss our own mark and end up…just doing our best.
  • Talk ‘with’ not ‘at’ your beloved –let yourself be vulnerable. Get to really know each other. We falsely believe we know our partners well only to find out something new we didn’t know by talking and being open ourselves.
  • Know that you’re in it together, not islands but not actually attached either. It is easier, believe me to do something together, because two heads are better than one. Would you have loved them the same if they were EXACTTLY like you? This does not mean that you need finish each other’s sentences either…I personally would like to finish my own. Also, have something in your life that is not connected to your beloved. You tend to appreciate each other more and it gives you something more to bring to the relationship.
  • Know that neither of you are perfect – REALLY! This is self-explanatory, isn’t it.
  • Laugh often -even at your imperfections – together preferably. Look, it can be great fun to laugh at others (providing they don’t get hurt) but to notice ones faults and still be able to laugh at yourself and not get miffed when your beloved joins in, that’s togetherness.
  • Know that you have not always been perfect to each other…read the above for more info – if necessary.
  • Apologize easily whenever you are wrong, and probably often. But remember, continually apologizing for the same mistake gets tiresome for both parties. Isn’t it better to actually deal with the issue?
  • Work on your relationships daily.  The relationship is a gift that can keep on giving, if you keep on giving to it.
  • Show and tell each other daily that you love each other. Tell them you love them and why. Do something special for the heck of it. Do something nice without pointing it out to get credit for it. This can be a toughie.
  • Pray to have lots of days, months and years together like this one. Time is a gift as well. We need to treat today like it may be our last with our beloved and pray that they can be around longer than you.
  • Get up again tomorrow and do it all again, lovingly. Look, nobody is perfect, but as long as we can get up again, there is hope.  Start the day anew. You have it in you to forgive all past sins, if you really want to and start fresh.  Besides, don’t you want all YOUR past sins forgiven? The answer to every question is love.
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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false] Relationships are always going to be something to work on for most of us, until we accept that others are not us. They don’t completely think like us, act like us, respond like us or much else actually as they are not us. Even when you understand this and are good at acceptance I suspect that occasionally you slip (like I do). Maybe you need a refresher course of action.

    Adam and Eve are a terrific couple who have been together for several decades and know each other well…well as well as one can know another person, anyway. They know all the quirks that their partner came into the relationship with and some of the rough edges have been smoothed out over time. Acceptance of those quirks has not always been easy, but to enjoy the relationship and last this long, their has to be acceptance or they would  have become the “Bickersons”! I tell you they are not.

    Eve has one thing that is a bit of an issue – she picks on her spouse about driving. You know – like I wrote about in my post “I have learned…my GPS only works for me!” Well Eve had the same affliction of criticizing her spouse wondering why he drove the speed he was or didn’t take her ideal route, etc. It irritated her and she HAD to tell him. Often!

    I asked her what she thought he heard when she did this behaviour.

    After a moment she replied, “He’s not good enough! I don’t trust him.”

    After this huge awareness (and silence) I asked if she trusted him and was he good enough.

    She quickly replied that it was yes to both. As Eve had been working on being “good enough” herself this was a real stab to her that she was saying the same thing to him in this behaviour (absolutely not uncommon) and she did not want to continue doing this. She also mentioned that this was certainly not the message that she wanted to convey.

    How could Eve amend the behaviour?

    So I asked what she wanted to do about it.

    Not do it again of course, was her answer.

    How would she feel if this is how she was when she was in the car and he was going the wrong way? Probably frustrated at first, but maybe it’s not the wrong way for him.

    Bingo! Revelation, now was it possible?

    Eve figured it may be difficult as it had been a habit for most of their 30 years of marriage.

    Could she apologize, she wasn’t sure.

    How could she conscript her husband in the process?

    Eve said the next time she was in the car and she felt compelled to do so she would mention it.

    The next time they were in the car she commented on his driving (Darn!) and as he looked over at her she realized that she was caught in that old behaviour and immediately apologized, stating she had this overwhelming feeling to correct his driving and that she was working on eliminating it from her not so good habits. He was surprised. He didn’t know she was aware she did it in the first place as she had been a back seat driver forever! This gave Eve an added impetus to work on this. Only a short time later she caught her husband doing the same thing to Eve’s dad and poked him…they both had a good laugh about it and he is now working on it, too.

    Eve is not perfect with this but catches herself and apologizes immediately. It was the largest area of criticism in her life. As she has been feeling “good enough” these days she also has not felt the need to defend herself either. All of the work that Eve has done has created incredible shifts in her thinking. Eve told me that she feels really good about giving the right message to her beloved Adam amd this goes deep to her core. I suspect that with all that she is feeling during this process of change, it will aid in the sticking of this new habit of “not doing” something and changing it for a loving action, letting go.

    Eve’s knowledge that she is truly a good person and good enough as she is has changed her thoughts, attitudes then actions. This has affected her reality. As she takes care of herself and lets go of others to take care of themselves there is nothing left to defend or criticize. Hmm sounds perfect doesn’t it. Well Eve is the first to note her lack of “perfection” and her goal for the perfect body still lurks in the wings. See you next week when Eve tackles this big part of her growth!

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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false] I don’t remember which one seems normal; Jekyll or Hyde, but I will use Jekyll as the unkempt one for my purpose here. It’s definitely Jekyll, when I see the woman who has grown the long, messy grey hair looking back at me in the mirror. It is long because I have chosen to grow it so, not because I have just not gotten to the hair stylist. I have actually been to the salon; just not in the past two months as I never know how long is long enough between cuts with long hair. It used to be every 4-5 weeks with 6 being a week too long for short locks. It has been 20 years since my hair was past my ears and actually to my shoulders, so I decided that this may be my last opportunity for big hair before I cannot be bothered with all the effort in taking care of it.

    My beloved said I look like the “Butterfly Lady” whenever I let my hair dry naturally, instead of ironing out the kinks. I have images of someone in a flowing flowery dress running through the sunny fields in bare feet or Birkenstocks with daisies in my hair and butterflies all around me while holding a bug net. Not completely unkempt but uncontrolled and free. I do like uncontrolled. The Hyde I imagine would be controlled in everything about his look and demeanor with his pressed suit and tie, and an impeccable shine on the toe of his shoes along with the appropriate hat and walking stick. None of this describes me on a good day.

    On that good day, starting from the top I would have ironed my hair, polished my skin with a minimal of cosmetic including lipstick of course and a recent visit to the wax lady for a clean up on isle brow, or should I say brows. If not for her magic, they remain one – brow that is. I appear to be just blind enough not to notice until that is what “IT” has become – one. Oh, I have tried. I have a mirror, a gift from my cousin who felt the need to help me with my plight. I was grateful.

    The gift was an 8x magnifying mirror with a tube of light all around to assist in the removal of all unwanted, unsightly (to those who can see), hair. Even with my reading glasses slid halfway down my nose it is still impossible even with contortions necessary to see the blessed hair! By the time I have grabbed the mirror and turned off the light by my mere touch several times to get the perfect angle and brightness, I AM DONE! Not done with the complete separation of the twins – just done. I have a kink in my neck, eye strain and the arthritic pain in my left hand has left me stiff and frustrated by all the effort. Why torture myself when I can have the job done by the 20 year old esthetician at the local salon in 5 minutes for 15 bucks?

    As I work my way below the neck to my attire it mostly depends on what I will be doing in my day. My Jekyll owns this wonderfully old and comfy, grey sweatshirt for a measly 15 years that is matched perfectly to a same colour pair of baggy bottom, bottoms that are a youthful 6 years new. Their comfort has yet to be met or surpassed by anything older or newer. Along with a longish t-shirt of absolutely any colour that inevitably hangs longer than the sweatshirt as well as 2 pair of socks. The under pair is cotton to keep my ankles from itching because of the outer scratchy grey wool variety with the red band at the ankle completes my ensemble. This is the kind of outfit one is recorded wearing on that show “What Not to Wear” so one could have the extreme makeover. This may not be such a bad idea!

    This outfit is rarely seen by neighbors or acquaintances but regularly by family and only the closest of friends. Lucky them! The good news is that my Jekyll comes with a very relaxed manner and good attitude as long as not forced to give up the attire for a jaunt outside its castle. This may induce either pouts or occasional snarls until the moat is crossed back and the drawbridge has been closed to all further traffic.

    My Ms. Hyde is not the coiffed being of stories, but perfectly acceptable for public perusal. When Hyde has her choice of fashion, there is a casualness to mirror her comfort within. Not the extreme of Jekyll to be sure, but a welcome step toward sound comfort and tidiness. I am not a shopaholic by any means with hundreds of unique expensive pieces in my wardrobe, but easy clothes for a not so demanding but tall individual.

    Hyde’s garments change from season to season and by level of fitness and activity. There is little fancy or outlandish. Some items are bright and colorful to mimic my disposition yet most are in tones of contemplative blues and green for active growth and enhances my state of mind.

    Women’s footwear must have been invented by some man. The same one who invented pantyhose, I suspect. They are always too narrow and too high causing pain in the arches, heels and toes- not to mention the balls of my feet. They pitch me forward unnaturally and I am in agony within fifteen minutes or less. Then my feet start to hurt. I have worn a shoe with a heel and hose exactly once in the past 3 years. Heels must certainly be at fault to turn perfectly normal women into crazed Jekyll lunatics because of the pain their vanity has bestowed upon them.

    I am the lover of Birkenstocks and any shoe with a foot bed or orthotic insert to shape and support my ever pained feet. If only I lived in a warm climate all year so I could live in sandals. Canadians need to bury their toes in sheepskin boots to stay warm and Wellies to keep dry 6 months or more each year. I would just feel funny walking outside with socks inside my Birks.

    I really don’t know much about Jekyll and Hyde, but I do know that I personally am in a state of quiet growth where sometimes I may appear peacefully reclusive and occasionally vivaciously vociferous but usually I am comfortably me. Not so much this or that but a combination of enough yin and yang to leave room for possibilities. These possibilities may lead me down a yellow brick road traversed by many or a road less traveled. Me that I am at the moment will hike willingly in my old Birks down either road, open to whatever is to come next.

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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false]Last week Eve spoke of “envy” of what others had that she didn’t and how it made her feel. This week’s session she started out stating how grateful she was with what she did have. Eve is becoming more of who she is and less of what others may have wanted her to be or her past illusion of herself. “Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has.”

    This week we are all about her relationships with others. Most of her relationships run quite smoothly as Eve is a loving, caring fun person to be around. Firstly, there is a friend who seems distant and too busy to be bothered to return calls and even forgot to mention a special occasion in town that she hadn’t bothered to let them know of as it was a tribute to a dear mutual friend.  This upset Eve. Not the same kind of crazy crying “how could she” that she had felt in the past or the “what did I do wrong” place that before she may have gone in the past. No – just incredibly disappointed. She also realized that as her closest friend near where she currently lives, she has depended on her and missed her.

    She found acceptance in her friend’s life and chose not to bring it up, but at some point when her friend brought up the event and that they were missed, Eve mentioned not knowing about it. The friend somehow thought she had and felt quite bad about not and for being so busy. “Let’s get together soon as there is to catch up on.” Eve understands that her own life is still the same but that she is changing. Not everyone will understand the changes or even like them for that matter.

     We have roles in relationships and when we alter ourselves sometimes who we are with others does too. Eve has let go of most things quite easily these days, even not knowing what her adult children are doing or going through. Even their choices which she may not understand or agree with somehow seem a lot easier to deal with.

    Her mom is another person to work on accepting that she has a close relationship with. Her mom knows how hard it has been in Eve’s life to keep weight off and even though it is apparent that she has lost an incredible amount of weight, mom has said nothing. Not a “How is it going?” Or a “You look great!” Her mother is also the kind of person who has never said “I am sorry.”

     I asked Eve is she was “good enough” without her mom’s opinion? She quickly said yes. “How important is it that mom notice?” Not as much as she thought, anymore. Eve used to strive for mom’s acceptance and approval but now realizes she no longer works for it. Is mom a perfectionist? “Apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree!” she laughs. Eve actually feels badly for others who have it, too. She is being so much easier on herself these days but cannot let her “perfectionist tendencies” slip in at any point. A great new habit has emerged!

    I ask Eve if she has been able to stand in front of a mirror and say “I am good enough and I love myself and my body?” Eve claims it is so much easier today and that is quite an improvement to wanting to cover the mirrors. Eve feels she is getting as good with this as the “should’s” in her life. Life is all about choices and Eve is choosing to enjoy every day of her life and is getting better results because of it daily.

    Now, Eve’s relationship with her husband is quite another story. They are a terrific couple, but like all of us there is always something to work on, and that is where we are going next week. Next week we will talk about critical driving. Have a great week!

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