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A sweet chestnut forest in the swiss alps(Ticino)

A sweet chestnut forest in the swiss alps(Ticino) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

There have been days as of late that I find myself standing in the middle of a room spinning. Not the kind you do as a kid with your arms wide looking up to the sky with puffy clouds and the sun peaking through. The kind where you can’t decide what to do next. I do know that this is temporary. My environment is not optimal at the moment with moving boxes everywhere and none of my “STUFF” anywhere nearby or handy.

Then there are moments where I do not feel connected to much of anything. This is a fairly rare event. Usually if I am tired or overwhelmed this is a possible outcome to just being DONE! An escape I think.

Now when I am grounded there are decisions to be made and they happen easily. Things to be done and are. Calls to be made and loads of to-dos which are systematically checked of the list and on I go with no real thought to it. When I am grounded all is really quite right in my world.

The floating, spinning me needs help at times and that is where the important stuff shows up. All I need do is realize that I am not grounded and I feel out of sorts in any way and I can ground myself. I have read books on the subject and I can tell you there are many. The simplest one I have found is Karla McLaren’s “your AURA and your CHAKRAS – The Owner’s Manual”.

If you are not sure about all this stuff or it seems BUNK to you take a moment to reflect a time when someone else was “in your space” or seemed to be “plugged  in” to you and drained all your energy. Or how you feel walking in nature or playing frisbee on the lawn or in a park. Part of that is about being grounded as well as doing something you are enjoying.

Having a bad moment go stick your hands in the garden and pull some weeds. Go for a stroll where the terra firm is below you not below the cement.  Stand on the ground and imagine your feet are like trunks of a tree and send a strong root system into the ground. There are some real lessons on how to ground yourself in this book and there are even grounding mats available out there to buy that are supposed to have a similar affect.

The point in all of this is to know when you are not grounded and find a way to get there. Look, even if this stuff still seems like “BUNK” to you. Take the time to check your presence in the moment and if you are not there, but somewhere else- take the time to breathe and notice where you are and what are you doing and connect yourself to that moment. Staying in the present is a great way to ditch the past and not get hung up in a future that has not happened yet.

At this moment I am writing a thought to those of you who have taken the time to read this thought. That is all, no more. Enjoy being grounded!

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Amy Gross wrote about the 10-Minute Mind Spa and I thought you might enjoy taking a few moments to try it. It is terrific to the people who have either not tried meditating or have had difficulty. You cannot do it wrong, but it does take time to melt into it. Even a few short moments may be the diffierence of connecting versus not trying at all. Give it a shot, I know you want to!
 
You say you can’t meditate because you “can’t stop thinking.” But, really, not thinking is not what it’s about. The point of meditation is to bring you to clarity so you know you are in fact thinking, or planning, or being depressed or hungry or angry or (it could happen) happy. The point is to become mindful—not mindless.

Most mental activity, you’ll see, distracts you from knowing what’s actually going on in and around you. We’re often lost in thought or worry, absorbed in the past or future. Meditation slices through the fog and brings you right back home, to where you actually are. It’s not woo-woo, it’s not esoteric or exotic. It’s brain training. Try this to get the flavor (you’ll probably want to close your eyes after reading the instructions to reduce visual input)

  • Sit in an upright but comfortable way. Scan your body to check that you’re relaxed—your eyes, jaw, shoulders, belly, hands, and legs. Sit and know that you are sitting. Become aware of your breath moving in and out. Think “out” when you feel the fall of the exhalation, “in” when you feel the rise or pressure or stretching or tingling of the inhalation (what are the sensations?). When your mind wanders—there’s no question it will—acknowledge that you’ve lost contact with your breath, and watch the next inhalation roll in.
  • The most important thing to realize is that every moment you notice you’ve wandered off is a moment of being aware, of clarity. That’s what you’re going for. What does it feel like? Within nanoseconds, you’ll be thinking again, and becoming aware that you’re thinking, and starting again. The more you do it, the more you’ll have the experience of that pause when the mind is actually clear and present—that taste of freshness.
  • You can do this anytime, for any amount of time. Try it for a minute, try it for 10. Pay close attention to a single in-breath, a single out-breath. Every experience of awareness makes the next more likely. The enrichment to your life has to be experienced to be believed.
  • Personally, I have an amazing ability to zone out looking out my kitchen window. There are trees and bushes and squirrels busily hiding their nuts for the winter to look at and then suddenly I am just there. Completely there. When my mind wanders off I note where it has taken me and I am grateful for the clarity that the moment of truly being has allowed. It’s worth 10 minutes to try out the “Mind Spa”. You will be delighted by how refreshed and clear headed you may feel afterwords. If a dog can live in the moment, I am sure we can too! Have an incredible weekend, friends!

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    [tweetmeme source=trcoaching only_single=false] Blogging is work but usually easy work. Maybe just more of a responsibility.  I think some days I need to not do any. Yesterday was one of them. If I was doing a blog writing just about stuff that was not about coaching it may be about the rain …like today. I know I am not alone liking a rain day or two. It is calming…relaxing. I can be pensive and thoughtful in the grayness of the rain. With the windows open I can feel the cool fresh breeze that comes in and I breathe deeply. I can be in the moment easily. Like meditation ….just one moment at a time, noticing it. God is with me.

    The dog lays on his bed expecting nothing. No long walks as the short one in the rain was good enough. No sitting on the deck watching the squirrels hope to leap off and catch another one…oops. Poor squirrel. The birds aren’t even singing or looking for seeds on the rail of the deck. I can usually sit hear watching them eat while I type at the kitchen counter.

    This hasn’t always been my life or character. There are many who have known me for a very long time who think I am still a zany force constantly in motion and those who know me now that don’t believe that is who I ever was. That other person did not appreciate being when there was so much doing – to keep busy. I can love and laugh at myself at who I was and who I am today. Fill the time and space with stuff and action and noise. Not today.

    Today is about peacefulness. The kind that happens while reading curled up on the end of the couch with the dog at my feet. My beloved doesn’t really go along with this habit of rest. There is always something to do and with rain the work just moves inside. I think down deep he envies my ability to stop. Not that he wants me to sit around always but that I can. I could be wrong, he could just like doing while I like being. Nothing wrong with knowing who you are, is there?

    Life is interesting even doing nothing special as I can be an observer of all that is around me, be there motion in it or not. Are you able to just sit…just be? I find it easier all the time, but not always. But for today – the rain comes down gently and the breeze is light and there is not much motion or sound. It is a great Sunday afternoon.

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